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This is my first blog which is dedicated to being open about mental health challenges, personal growth and development, life as an only child, a mom, an entrepreneur, all stemming from my own experiences and my struggles with depression.
At first, I wasn’t certain if I had anything useful to share, or if I even wanted to. I was on my own self improvement journey, as I had to constantly work on myself so not the ‘succumb’ to the depression. And through that, I found a passion to try and help others do the same, primarily through my network marketing business.
My husband thought I should become a life coach, which I thought was absolutely ridiculous, because what would I call myself? The Depressed Life Coach??? It seemed like an oxymoron to me. Who would possibly need ‘coaching’ from the girl who was dealing with depression Every. Single. Day. I didn’t have a background in psychology, coaching, medicine, or anything like that, so why would anyone want to hear from me instead of an expert?
I shared the absurdity of my husband’s suggestion with a friend who pointed out something to me that I hadn’t considered. It wasn’t about the formal education that made me an expert. It was about my personal experiences, stories and challenges that made me relatable. And there you have it. The #DepressedMomBoss was created.
So a bit about me… My background is in marketing, communications and event planning. I was really, really good at it, so I thought I loved it. But I realized that I really disliked others being in charge of my time, and how much money I could make. And, priorities change over time, so I confirmed to myself that it was more important for me to be a stay at home mom. And if I have to be honest, I didn’t know if I could handle going back to work, being away from my babies, worrying all the time AND ‘dealing’ with my depression. Or more specifically, how to hide it.
I loved working hard, and I needed to feel useful and contribute to the household finances, but I was done working hard for someone else. I started my Arbonne business for me to be a work from home mom and to give me the time to work around my mental health challenges. I love Arbonne and its products, but what I am passionate about is sharing how the business could transform peoples lives. It’s jokingly said that Arbonne is a personal growth company disguised as a network marketing company, but it is ABSOLUTELY true. I can never express this with enough conviction, but Arbonne saved my life.
My introduction to personal growth and self improvement came from starting my business. The true work of my business is stuff that no one else sees, namely the work I have to constantly do on myself. My gratitude for my illness was born because I knew that I couldn’t fix myself or anyone else, but through sharing my own story could possibly ‘permit’ someone to share theirs or be who they wanted to be, regardless of society’s opinion of who they should be.
What does my everyday look like otherwise? I have two crazy little boys, (one with autism spectrum disorder). I love animals and find healing with having pets. I love food, and would rather eat a bite of a a gazillion things than a huge feast of one particular item (although, sushi is something I could eat a ton of). I’m first generation Canadian, and love to cook Indian food and show others how to legitimately do that too (and have a hobby business for that very purpose).
I always wanted to be a singer because of ‘Jem and the Holograms’, but I am happy doing karaoke, where it is okay to not actually be a good singer. My parents, who divorced when I was seven, both struggle with health problems, and as an only child, I will never turn a blind eye to what they are going through as it could happen to me too. I love the healthy living program through my biz, as it helped me get off some medications that I thought were part of my life, such as diuretics (for high blood pressure) and acid reflux pills. It also helped me sleep better, have more energy and gave me the strength to get out of bed on the days that the depression tried to keep me down.
My husband and I are very big, stubborn personalities, but we love each other unconditionally, although I have to remind myself regularly to be grateful for the growth that both of us have being in a relationship. I love his heart which most people don’t see because of his projection of confidence, and I know he loves my passion, because when I feel something, I feel it deeply to the core of my being.
And finally, for the sake of this introduction, I have depression (which I’m sure you’ve gathered if you’ve read this far). I’ve thought about driving into the lake in my neighbourhood and about my friends’ teenage son that took his own life, wondering what if I… I feel like a hot mess most days, but have discovered that I am passionate about the fact that I have a purpose in this life to help myself so I can help others.
The name of my blog, The Depressed Mom Boss, may sound… well, depressing, lol. But, actually, I just want to be honest about my life living with this illness, how it affects me, my family, my business and my health overall. It is a part of me, but doesn’t define who I am.
Honestly, I don’t know your story, but I hope that sharing mine will open your eyes to the fact that you are worth more than you probably give yourself credit for…
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From the bottom of my heart, thanks for reading!
Sarah, The Depressed Mom Boss
(Photo Credit: Kim Ottenbrite Photography)